Dr. Djuwari
Along time ago, to have an appointment for meeting was more problematic. We needed scheduling for a physical meeting in person. We needed to provide a room or at least a place for a meeting. But, in a digital society, it is much easier to have an appointment for a meeting. The most important principle is honesty for commitment. When we break this principle, it will ruin our relationship.
Friendship, an intricate tapestry of mutual understanding, support, and companionship. It is a fundamental aspect of human existence. At the heart of every enduring friendship lies a commitment. It is a promise of loyalty. It also supports that binds individuals together through the highs and lows of life. The concept of relationship commitment between friends encapsulates the depth of emotional investment. It also shows a willingness to nurture and sustain the bond despite challenges.
Friendship commitment is multifaceted. It encompasses various dimensions of loyalty, trust, and reciprocity. It entails a steadfast dedication to the well-being and happiness of one’s friends, even in the absence of external incentives or obligations. As stated by psychologist William Rawlins, friendship commitment involves continuity, trust, and loyalty (Rawlins, 2009). These foundational elements form the bedrock of enduring friendships, fostering a sense of security and belonging among individuals.
Trust, a cornerstone of friendship commitment. It is built over time through shared experiences, honesty, and reliability. Friends rely on each other for emotional support, confiding in one another without fear of judgment or betrayal. This mutual trust creates a safe space where individuals can express themselves authentically, knowing that their words and feelings are valued and respected.
Additionally, we have to foster the bond of friendship. We can do it by consistent communication and engaging in shared activities. We can also extend acts of kindness. But, the most importantly is by actively informing what we are doing at the moment in our lives when it is related to both sides. Sociologist Jan Yager, the friendship expert, emphasizes this mutual effort and reciprocity within friendships. She stated that friendship is not a one-way street but it requires mutual effort and reciprocity (Yager, 2002). This mutual investment serves to enhance the connection between friends, cultivating a feeling of interconnectedness and solidarity.
At the core of friendship commitment lies loyalty. It is a deep-seated allegiance to one’s friends, even in the face of adversity. True friends stand by each other through thick and thin, offering unwavering support and encouragement during challenging times. This loyalty transcends individual interests. It also extends to the collective well-being of the friendship, reinforcing the sense of camaraderie and solidarity.
Friendship commitment is also characterized by emotional intimacy. It is a deep sense of closeness and connection between friends. Through shared laughter, tears, and moments of vulnerability, individuals forge profound emotional bonds. These bonds can enrich their lives and sustain them through life’s trials and tribulations. Finally, this emotional intimacy fosters a sense of belonging and acceptance. Then, it also affirms each individual’s worth and value within the friendship.
To build a strong bond and friendship, commitment and honesty should be exhibited. Friendship commitment is a vital aspect of interpersonal relationships. To close the topic above, let us refer to the author C.S. Lewis, “Friendship is born at the moment when one person says to another, ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one'” (Lewis, 1960). In this shared journey of laughter and tears, friends find solace, strength, and companionship, enriching their lives immeasurably.
Dr. Djuwari is an Associate Professor at Universitas Nahdlatul Ulama Surabaya (UNUSA) Indonesia. Surabaya, the editor of some research journals in the Philippines and Indonesia. He is also a journalist in some newspapers in Indonesia; the President of International Association of Scholarly Publishers, Editors, and Reviewers (IASPER), business owner of Djuw Café
####
