I have been writing columns for several papers from all over the world since the early 1980s. Sometimes, while writing, I am indeed not in a good mood. I rewrite and rewrite – and then the moment comes, I am asking myself: “Do the readers of this publication really like to read my columns?”
Anyway, I will try my best. It’s actually a sweet day today, so cool, so calm, so bright, it’s like the bridal of earth and heaven. The grandeur of God flames out like shining from shook foil. I feel like the waves make towards the pebbled shore, but, I feel that our minutes hasten to their end.
Why?
I observed again a multi national couple somewhere in my surroundings, fighting each other. Gosh. Stupid people have an uncanny way of hitting the right nail on the head with the wrong hammer!
Maybe, you are also angry right now, while reading this. You are angry, even for others it’s a beautiful day. Are you angry? It’s okay. We are all battling against one of the most powerful emotions known to man – anger!
Anger. A day rarely goes by without us feeling angry. Or, maybe seldom a day goes by without feeling anger… .
Anger is the main part of our daily life. That’s why it’s really important to talk about this phenomenon. What is anger, what does it do and how does it affect our lives? Where does it come from and how can we learn to handle it in a constructive instead of destructive way? Only, if the roots of our anger are exposed and explained, can we defuse its explosive and dangerous potentials.
As I said earlier, anger is one of the most basic emotions. Everyone can get angry. You and me? Now, later, tomorrow…! It’s a feeling of being against something or someone.
Many people in my surroundings and I hate the barking of my neighbour’s dogs. Nothing happened. Barangay, City Hall – it seems this neighbour has all the power in the world to let his dogs keep on barking, whatever the reasons are. As I said in one of my earlier columns: I pity the dogs, because this neighbour seems not to understand how to treat these dogs, as they should be treated. And, a neighbourhood in a calm and friendly atmosphere doesn’t exist for him.
Anger is a hostile emotion that sets people against one another, or even themselves. By its nature, anger involves opposition, hostility, hatred and dislike. It happened between Filipinos, and between Filipinos and foreigners as well living here in the Philippines for good.
Anger, however, is simpler to define than to identity. Emotions of antagonism can take a wide variety of faces. Expressions of anger range from the overt, in-your-face brand of open hospitality to the cold indifference of a silent individual.
At times, anger can be felt like an inner fire… .
Millions of defence, not a damned penny for tribute, as Charles Pinkney stated… . Anger between people: the one side remains cold as ice while the opposite plays meek as a lamb.Sige, burn the midnight oil! And what was the result at the end? A shadow of doubt remains after each fight getting its origin out of anger.
The silent withdrawal and lack of understanding and innumerable shortcomings of one or both partners are often an indication that one is angrily punishing the other for not doing things his or her way.
We are all selfish! Yes, me too! That’s why we see the cause of anger as something outside of ourselves. Life is unfair! Life is hard!
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