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SOCIAL ANXIETY

September 8, 2020

SOCIAL anxiety is the single most common psychological problem according to innumerable survey results worldwide. The magnificent, gorgeous, and excellent isolation, resulting from being nervous when meeting people is really the opposite. The state of being isolated reminds me of being in a hospital with an infectious disease. Especially nowadays in times of Covid-19 ... . Does the project of giving a speech or going to a social gathering give you the willies? Relax, there are always ways and solutions to help you by teaching you "never to be nervous again". I have always been the most silent pupil in elementary and high school. I was ashamed even to talk to or with my teachers. Several not really satisfactory (?) school records have been the result. But, I wanted to become a journalist. I am still one. And, I taught at a state university for more than 12 years. During college times and while writing the first articles I learned from my first boss, a daily news publisher, to avoid being nervous while meeting people. I was always prepared. Preparation for any communicating situation is a must. I have been invited to many parties and gatherings. I always asked for the guest list. I scanned all newspapers and browsed them on the net. "In your opinion, who..." or "What do you think of....?" kept the momentum going. That was sometime during the 1960s. Since that time, I was just very lucky to always meet the right people at the right time and place, which kept on teaching me how to avoid splendid isolation. Whether you're delivering a speech, approaching your boss, or joining an important social occasion, do at first your homework. The most polished, smoothly delivered and spontaneous soundings talks are the result of many hours of work and years-long experiences. The memorable one-liners and moving phrases that went down in history didn't come from the last-minute bursts of inspiration. I also learned from Harvard University historian Richard Marius, "that good writing is a kind of wrestling with the thought". Or, as New York Times columnist William Safire expressed before: "To communicate, put your thoughts in order, give them a purpose, use them to persuade, to instruct, to discover, to seduce!" Let's don't forget, that every one of us has something to be proud of and that everyone enjoys talking about it. But, you have to make it happen! +++ Email: doringklaus@gmail.com or follow me on Facebook, Linkedin or Twitter or visit my www.germanexpatinthephilippines.blogspot.com or www.klausdoringsclassicalmusic.blogspot.com.

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Measuring the national leader’s success

September 1, 2020

"For one true measure of a nation is its success in fulfilling the promise of a better life for each of its members. Let this be the measure of our nation."  (John F. Kennedy, 1962) IN 1962, the President of America, John F. Kennedy (JFK) stated the above quotation.  It was uttered to a Congress on National Health Needs. Exactly, it was spoken on February 27, 1962.  JFK was born on May 29, 1917, in Brookline, Massachusetts. He died on November 22, 1963. How to measure the success of any leader is not difficult. It can be indicated by whether the people get better lives. If every member of the nation lives better, it is the obvious token showing the leader’s success. If not, it is easy to say it. He or she failed. There is no more argument to brag. There is nothing for haggling about the fact. JFK had managed any kind of challenges. Even, he could manage the hardships from foreign countries. He could manage economically and politically. As he stated, the success of any leader is to keep his promise of making the people live better. Even it is with any kind of disastrous condition in the country. Today, we have experienced the same tragedy, all over the world. The Covid-19 outbreak has devastated the aspects of lives. It has penetrated all countries. But, the results of curbing this situation look different. As reported by the World Health Organization (WHO), on August 31, 2020, there have been 35, 085, 685 confirmed cases of coronavirus disease. From these confirmed cases, there are 843,927 deaths.   When viewing continentally, it looks that America is the highest, for the confirmed cases: 13,268,684. It is followed by Europe: 4,205,708. Then, South East Asia: 4,157,798. From this rank, then, it is followed by Eastern Mediterranean: 1,915,275, Africa: 1,044,513, and finally Western Pacific: 492,966 (WHO report, August 31, 2020). Unfortunately, there is no clear answer, when this covid-19 ends totally. If there is no exact time, all the nations throughout the world live under uncertainty. Economically, all the affected countries have dropped drastically. People are jobless.  Getting the money for a living is more difficult.  Nobel prize-winning economist Joseph Stieglitz et.al stated that 81% of the global workforce has been hit by full or partial lockdown. As reported by Chatham House, the United Nation (UN) has estimated,   300 million jobs have been lost up to May 2020. It is serious. This is the priority to take for action. So, what the national leaders do for their people is the measurement of their success.  We have noted the indicator of their success. For one true measure of a nation is its success in fulfilling the promise of a better life for each of its members. Let this be the measure of our nation. That is the measurement for seeing the national leader’s success.   There are some important ways for overcoming the Covid 19 outbreak. This pandemic is really serious. The government and their apparatus should escort all the state-budget transparently. All programs targeted for overcoming the Covid 190, must be done in good governance. There must not be any funds leaking. Economic programs should be prioritized. Education and some of assistances related to it are also the best priority. Editor's Note: Dr. Djuwari is an Associate Professor and the Director of Language Laboratory at STIE Perbanas Surabaya, the editor of some research journals in the Philippines and Indonesia. He is also a journalist in some newspapers in Indonesia; the President of International Association of Scholarly Publishers, Editors, and Reviewers (IASPER).      

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BEING ON THE RIGHT TRACK?

September 1, 2020

MANY times we compare our life with a way. We talk about a "human life way". We describe a determined human such as, "He's on the right track (way)". We must make our tracks, but we will prepoved not to take a path across a rice-field. We learn that there are many ways to solve problems. We also don't want to stand in other people's way. Sometimes we prefer to keep out of someone's way. Sometimes, we plan already to get someone out of our way. It just happened in my surroundings. Most of all, we do try to find the golden middle course. "Hay nako" - that's the hardest task in life! Many different ways have been offered to us during our whole life. Whole life?  Mmmmh, let's wait and see and have a cup of tea! How can we be able to choose the right way? The correct one? Which signs on our way can be trusted blindly? These are urgent and vital questions for all of us, and, during this time, important like never before. In the pasty traditions and custom demands have been produced our ways unquestionable. Nowadays permanently, constantly and continually we must think about decisions and look for the correct plan - but, more and more alone! Today's man is like a ship's captain.This ship contains solid iron. The compass needle is no more able to show the Northern direction as expected, because of the ship's iron inflexible body. You only have one choice: look up to the stars and study their guiding support. A very wise idea by German atom-physicist Werner Heisenberg (1901-1976). We are all happy and proud while having the perfect means at our disposal. On the other hand, our blindness allows us to intricate and confused destinations in life, aims, goals and objectives. We all know the headlines of our daily life, which always turn us away and distract our views to the stars - means to say: to God. - Coup d'Etat (ignoring) of human values; - Total (modern?) emancipation; - Longing mostly -or only- for earthly luck on the way of all . Many of these headlines are reality already. But this reality stays behind real dreams and illusions.  Let's keep our eyes open for the most important signs at our way, such as - Ready to help the unprotected and defenseless weak; - Struggle for freedom and justice; - Commitment of peace; -  Most of all: Love, which doesn't calculate and count - love without measurements, boundaries and limits.

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ERRING

August 24, 2020

TO err is human - to forgive is divine. The British poet Alexander Pope (1688-1744) created this saying. And, in my opinion, he was so very right. Erring - having failed to adhere to the proper or accepted standards. How many times have we done something wrong? In our daily life struggles, we also pass innumerable periods of splendid isolation and act, as William Shakespeare said, "Thoughts are free" by hurting and insulting relatives, friends, and colleagues. Many times we err, and, even if we know it, we don't care. BAHALA SILA... Maybe we pray and ask for forgiveness. And, we are so sure of having our complimentary ticket in our pockets and pouches. Nobody is perfect - sure! Me too! Yes, I confess! But that's no excuse for broken promises. How many times do we commit a mistake? How many times are we mistaken, or get astray? How many times do we sin? How often do we catch ourselves being roving, wandering, and acting eccentric, changeable, capricious, and not dependable? Or, how many people in our surroundings do we meet daily, who err terribly on their decisions? I am not talking about the deviation from right or truth and the sins, blunders, and mistakes, which we make in our daily life. To err is human, sure - but not if we err willfully, intentionally, or if legal premeditation is done. But the second part of my today's column here is much more important: forgiveness! Yes, forgiveness is divinity - meaning to say: godhead and theological together. I looked into my dictionaries and found innumerable explanations: "If we can forgive, we are belonging to, or, we are having the nature of God. We might be holy, sacred, heavenly, or a superhuman -being a priest, a pastor, a clergy, or theologian!" I guess it's already a wonderful situation, after being insulted or hurt by someone to hear the simple expression "SORRY!" Yes, it's coming from the bottom of the heart. "SORRY!" ... - and I ask God also to forgive all my sins and my wrongdoings to others. Regarding "seeking forgiveness" we can find plenty of passages in our Holy Bible. The most touching part for me is being found in Proverbs 28:13: "You will never succeed in life if you try to hide your sins. Confess them and give them up, then God will show mercy to you!" "Erring" taxi drivers never die out. When I returned from my last long trip before Covid-19 stopped all travel plans, I met one, asking me an extra charge of 50 Pesos because of the incalculable waiting period at the airport. The taxi number and company are noted. Just in case... Of course, I didn't pay the extra charge and boarded another taxi.... +++ Email: doringklaus@gmail.com or follow me on Facebook, Linkedin or Twitter or visit www.germanexpatinthephilippines.blogspot.com or www.klausdoringsclassicalmusic.blogspot.com .

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Dreams are foam?

August 18, 2020

SERIES of images or thoughts in the mind of a person asleep - the idle fancy, the vision, the aspiration, the yearnings - they are the dreams that have interested, puzzled and frightened people for thousands of years. All kinds of strange explanations have been written and talked about dreams. Dream interpreters have published innumerable books. I bought some of them a long time ago. I caught myself reading them and trying to analyze my dreams, resulting in becoming unsure and sometimes really undecided about the many different explanations regarding the same dream content. At one time, people thought that the figures appearing in dreams were messengers from the Gods. It was generally believed that dreams came from something outside a person's special skills. Today it is believed that the dreamer himself creates dreams and that his or her dreams get a very special meaning. Your health may affect your dreams. A person, who is feeling ill or uncomfortable, will have different kinds of dreams than that of a person, who is doing good and who is happy. If a person is hungry or feels cold or very tired - his dreams may include those feelings, Also former events may have a lot to do with what we dream about. Often, the person or situations in a dream are those in our life. Or our emotions may make you have the kind of dream you have. Needing or wanting something may be expressed in a dream, and frightened may become a dream's part. I dream a lot. I am still dreaming of a better world. Yes, it's naive and blue-eyed - I know. I am dreaming of surroundings without ignorance and arrogance, and with really good friends who don't turn aside if we need them. I dream of a world with people who will stop killing each other because of stupid and incomprehensible reasons. I dream about a world without coronavirus... Dreams are foams? Maybe. Maybe not. A long time ago, Confucius said: "The only one who steals our dreams brings us to death!" Pwede! Or how about this Hungarian saying: "In dreams and in love nothing is impossible!" And William Shakespeare's Hamlet: "Sleeping! Maybe also dreaming! Yes, that's it!". Let's dream hard, and let's work harder! +++ Comments, questions or suggestions? Please feel free to email me: doringklaus@gmail.com or follow me on Facebook, LinkedIn or Twitter or visit www.germanexpatinthephilippines.blogspot.com or www.klausdoringsclassicalmusic.blogspot.com.

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The place that represents success in town

August 17, 2020

Uptown is nice. Uptown is great. Uptown is the place to be. Live, work and play in Uptown. This has been the mantra that we have been hearing over the past 10 years especially repeated by the numerous advertorials of the several developers that have contributed to built a whole new city in Uptown Cagayan de Oro.      The development of Uptown CdO seems really unstoppable also considering the strong will of the city to develop Lumbia as the new government center. The additional connectivity through the new connection roads from Opol to Laguindingan and the road leading to Talakag and Maramag in Bukidnon is just adding substance to the indisputable fact that Uptown is becoming the place for the people that really count in the city. Most of the rich and famous, of the businessmen and professional elites have relocated to Uptown. If there weren't their old family mansions or palaces somewhere in downtown mostly all of the local families and success drivers of the city would have moved and invested into the Uptown area.      In a certain way we could say that moving to Uptown CdO is already the first step towards personal success. Beyond it being a status symbol or an element of pride life is really different here with wide roads, breathable air, tropical vegetation, hills and mountains, recreational facilities, schools, golf and shopping facilities at SM City as well as at numerous other private businesses along Masterson Avenue for example.      The announcement of a new Gaisano Mall near Gran Europa underlines the concept and will of being where things happen, where purchasing power is the highest and where you find the people that count and that really have a say in the economic and financial setting of the city. The golf club in fact is another congregator for VIPs and other public and private personalities as well as professionals. The fact that one can experience different lifestyles like luxury condo-living as well as living in a subdivision is already a privilege one cannot find everywhere.      Combine this with some of the best schools in town you have found the place to be. You can actually hear young people bragging: “I am from Uptown” giving it a new sense of identity for the Uptown citizen. This should bring new wind to the sails of the Uptown stakeholders and all those entrepreneurs thinking of setting up businesses in the area.      The successful example of Primavera Residences bringing this new condo lifestyle to the city and representing the very first condominium in town has shown to drag even more investors to the Uptown community. In fact, on the wave of this success, Italpinas Development Corporation, the developer of green and sustainable condominium projects in Uptown CdO, launched their second project “Primavera City”, currently still under construction. In the end the city of golden friendship has become the city of golden opportunities.      Businesses, even after this prolonged period of economic crisis are still sprouting and growing naturally in a city which is the economic and financial hub of Northern Mindanao. There has been a great and continuous influx of people from nearby municipalities and provinces looking for work, sending the kids to college or to set up businesses, invest or simply just buying a second home. And in the city of Cagayan de Oro there is nowhere else to be identified as the place where exclusivity and superior lifestyle marries with modern design and distinct dining and shopping facilities. I am aware that there is still some people who prefer the chaotic, polluted and flood prone downtown but for me Uptown is the place to be.

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