January 17, 2021

Matthew 12:34 says, "Out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks". Indeed, the place to begin with our words is inside in our thoughts about others and us. If we accompany that with a commitment to stop speaking hurtful words. We have begun a dramatic mid-course correction in life, a religion writer, Dave McCasland said a long time ago.   The power of words, written as well as spoken out, is a weapon, which can hurt or even kill. Writing with a wicked pen or talking with a sharp tongue doesn't mean that all of us should walk disrespectfully through other's lives.   Careless words can really inflict wounds that last for a lifetime. On the other hand, kind words can bring healing and encouragement. Yes, everything we say has the power to hurt or to heal.   The religious and philosophical writer Tulushkin stressed: "If you can't go for 24 hours without saying unkind words about others, you have lost control of your tongue. Joseph Telushkin lectured on the awesome power of words and our sometimes "dirty tongues".   He suggested taking a revealing "tongue test" to see where we stand. "Monitor your conversation for two days", he said. "Note every time you say something negative about someone, who is not personally present. Also record, when others do so, as well as your reactions when it happened. Do you try to silence the speaker, or do you ask for more details?" And then, Telushkin concluded: "Most of us who take this test are unpleasantly surprised!" And now, my dear readers you can guess, why ... .   I found another good description in Proverbs 6:16-19, relate to the causes and effects of hurting and damaging words: "Haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are quick to rush into evil, a false witness who pours out lies, and a man who stirs up dissension among brothers".   I really had to think of one of the other details  from the past few days reaching us from the global newsrooms... .   +++   Email: doringklaus@gmail or follow me on Facebook, Linkedin or Twitter or visit my www.germanexpatinthephilippines.blogspot.com or www.klausdoringsclassicalmusic.blogspot.com

Bad news and personal mental disorder

November 4, 2020

IN digital society, we find the unlimited members. It is the world members. We have incidental connections every day. We are gradually getting friends day by day. Some are good. Others may be on the contrary. But, the most important thing is how to let our emotions control our intelligence. This is expected to avoid us from having personal mid disorder. In social media, we have tweeter, Instagram, Facebook, WhattsApp (WA), and many others. All these social media accounts needs very specific management. Political supporters build their social media accounts. They may create even more than one account. The trickiest is the accounts without clear identities. No real names, no real pictures, no other information related to personal details. In the case above, we cannot see every single motive. But, when political affairs enter this digital society, all words posted can lead to chaos. The links of the news, professional videos, and amateur recorded videos emerge into one consumption for the world public. For a country in ASEAN can also consume the news of political affairs in western countries. It can also on the other way around. For knowledge building, this technological equipment can also help people around the world find new knowledge. However, it can endanger children, teenagers, and the grown-ups to be in bad mood. For the big 6 social media accounts, we have the number of the users. In 1919, the number of Facebook users is 2,414 billion, YouTube, 2 billion, WhattsApp, 1.6 billion, messenger, 1.3 billion, We Chat, 1, 33 billion, Instagram 1 billion (bradbroadsearch.com). Among the members above, Facebook is the most popular, followed by YouTube, WhattsApp, Messenger, We Chat, and Instagram.   There are many types of news:  private, work‐related, war/terrorism, disasters/accidents, sports, economics, politics, and others. All these are selected but it can be at random. But, the contents can be either bad or good ones. A research by Natascha de Hoog and Peter Verboon (2019) provides us exciting evidence. The type of news being exposed to the respondents can be categorized as follows: private 4.3%, work‐related 2.7%, war/terrorism 7.2%, disasters/accidents 5.1%, sports 4.9%, economics 4.9%, politics 12%, other 9%, and no news 54.8% of the time. When comparing the types of news, politics is 12%, followed by war/ terrorism 7.2 %, disasters and accidents 5.1%. Then, followed by sports and economics: each 4.9%, private news 4.3%, work-related 2.7%, other 9%, and no news 54.8% of the time. We can see, war/terrorism are so high. All these can damage our generations’ mind when, we cannot control all these types of news and the impacts on the children.   The languages spoken e.g., through videos on YouTube are full of heterogeneous vocabularies. The “speech acts” that might be consumed by adults may also be consumed by even children. Psychologically, this lead to jeopardy for the children’s mind. More tensely, when adults are confronting the same adults, it will also coloring the digital society characteristics. People shouting and posting the written languages angrily.  Emotions control their intelligence. When this happens every minutes, the world public can be similar to animals in the jungle. No ethics and social values are expressed on that social communications. People tend to let their emotion overpower their intelligence.  If “educated people” are trapped into this condition, there will be soon a crises of the role models. Children and young people need the role model in the digital society. Therefore, the grownups and more importantly the educated should try hard to control their mind not to overpower their intelligence. As Hoog and Verboon (2019) found in their research, daily exposure to everyday news facts makes people feel bad. They will feel so, especially when they consider the news to be personally relevant. It can be implied that people need to look more carefully at the way (negative) news is presented on social on the media. Besides that, people are suggested to minimize the frequency of exposure to the news. By doing the above measures, it is expected that we can prevent the digital society’s members from being negatively affected by all the bad news. This article is obligatory to invite the educated people. It is advisable that we should not let our emotion to overpower our intelligence (quote of the day by driven resilielnce.com). Otherwise, the digital society can make us have personal mental disorder. Dr. Djuwari is an Associate Professor and the Director of Language Laboratory at STIE Perbanas Surabaya, the editor of some research journals in the Philippines and Indonesia. He is also a journalist in some newspapers in Indonesia; the President of International Association of Scholarly Publishers, Editors, and Reviewers (IASPER).


October 10, 2020

LEAVE me alone! Give me a break! I can be a reluctant socialiser. Or should I better say I could. Nowadays, with Covid-19,  everything becomes different. In the past,  sometimes I was secretly pleased when social plans were called off. I got restless a few hours into a hangout. Maybe, I would not be invited any more. Or not such often... . I even once went on a free 10-day silent meditation retreat – not for the meditation, but for the silence. No matter if staying in the Philippines, in Germany or somewhere else.     So I can relate to author Anneli Rufus, who recounted in Party of One: The Loners’ Manifesto: “When parents on TV shows punished their kids by ordering them to go to their rooms, I was confused. I loved my room. Being there behind a locked door was a treat. To me a punishment was being ordered to play Yahtzee with my cousin Louis.” Being a little boy, "my room" was really my castle.     Several years ago in one of my write-ups, I wrote about loneliness or in other words: splendid isolation. My last week's write-up at this corner was entitled "The Only Lonely".     Wanting to be alone: social tendencies like these are often far from ideal. Abundant research shows the harms of social isolation, considered a serious public health problem in countries that have rapidly ageing populations (though talk of a ‘loneliness epidemic’ may be overblown). In the UK, the Royal College of General Practitioners says that loneliness has the same risk level for premature death as diabetes. Strong social connections are important for cognitive functioning, motor function and a smoothly running immune system.     This is especially clear from cases of extreme social isolation. Examples of people kept in captivity, children kept isolated in abusive orphanages, and prisoners kept in solitary confinement all show how prolonged solitude can lead to hallucinations and other forms of mental instability.     But these are severe and involuntary cases of aloneness. For those of us who just prefer plenty of alone time, emerging research suggests some good news: there are upsides to being reclusive – for both our work lives and our emotional well-being.     Social anxiety (please check out my previous columns here!) is the single most common psychological problem according to innumerable survey results worldwide. The magnificent, gorgeous and excellent isolation, resulting from being nervous when meeting people is really the opposite. The state of being isolated reminds me of being in a hospital with an infectious disease. Easy to say nowadays ... .     A recent vindication of these ideas came from University at Buffalo psychologist Julie Bowker, who researches social withdrawal. Social withdrawal usually is categorised into three types: shyness caused by fear or anxiety; avoidance, from a dislike of socialising; and unsociability, from a preference for solitude.     There is gender and cultural variation, of course. For instance, some research suggests that unsociable children in China have more interpersonal and academic problems than unsociable kids in the West. Bowker says that these differences are narrowing as the world becomes more globalized.     Still, it turns out that solitude is important for more than creativity. Since ancient times, meanwhile, people have been aware of a link between isolation and mental focus. After all, cultures with traditions of religious hermits believe that solitude is important for enlightenment.     Recent research has given us a better understanding of why. One benefit of unsociability is the brain’s state of active mental rest, which goes hand-in-hand with the stillness of being alone. When another person is present, your brain can’t help but pay some attention. This can be a positive distraction. But it’s still a distraction.     Daydreaming in the absence of such distractions activates the brain’s default-mode network. Among other functions, this network helps to consolidate memory and understand others’ emotions. Giving free rein to a wandering mind not only helps with focus in the long term but strengthens your sense of both yourself and others. Paradoxically, therefore, periods of solitude actually help when it comes time to socialise once more. And the occasional absence of focus ultimately helps concentration in the long run.     I learned, if your personality tends toward un-sociability, you shouldn’t feel the need to change. Of course, that comes with caveats. But as long as you have regular social contact, you are choosing solitude rather than being forced into it, you have at least a few good friends and your solitude is good for your well-being or productivity, there’s no point agonizing over how to fit a square personality into a round hole.     So feel free to de-clutter your social calendar. Even in times of Covid-19. It’s psychologist-approved.     +++     Email: doringklaus@gmail.com or follow me on Facebook, Twitter or LinkedIn or visit www.germanexpatinthephilippines.blogspot.com or wwww.klausdoringsclassicalmusic.blogspot.com .  

Be global minded and humanistic

October 7, 2020

A genuine leader is not a searcher for consensus, but a molder of consensus (Martin Luther King Jr.: 1929-1968) THE quote above was stated by Martin Luther King Jr. He was assassinated after he struggled for civil human rights through nonviolence. In that story of his life, it implies that world peace based on human rights is very expensive “to pay.” Therefore, we can now struggle for the same purpose but with another mode. An intellectual is part of this effort. So, don’t be too egoistic, just for searching of your own best achievement. Contemplate something beyond that endeavor, my dear friends: the world intellectuals! Please build a mutual collaboration among us! Don’t think only one purpose: just to get an accredited status of a university faculty. Truly, humbly, and honestly, that purpose is a tiny thing of the world nations’ wisdom. Being global-minded is required today. It is entirely true for—very specifically—the intellectuals. The Silicon Valley Project Management in Japan, for example, defines a person being global-minded. A global minded person is someone who behaves as if they are a citizen of the world as well as a citizen of their home country. Based on that definition, being a global-minded person has several benefits. When they are intellectuals they will become broad-minded. They don’t think that they are the smartest. They won’t think that they are the best. Having recognized the world view, they become humble. It is being humble not only in their own position but also their way to react to other people. Why do we have to enhance our nation to be global-minded? Even we can start fostering global-mindedness from the children. By building the nation to be global-minded, we can lead them into more activities. Children, youths, and even adults can collaborate. They can compete. But, above all, they can contribute to the nations’ collective future. One of the examples of doing things globally is collaborating. My college, for example, STIE Perbanas Surabaya, has collaborated with the Mountain Province State Polytechnic College (MPSPC), Bontoc, the Philippines. We have student exchange and faculty exchange. The first one was held on April 4-12, 2019. In the program of student exchange, we had sent our students to MPSPC Bontoc, the Philippines. We had seen the students exchanging their ideas. They discussed the topics not only about sciences but also about cultures. They learned a lot each other about their own and others’ cultures. By doing this, they could build warm relationship. Now, they are still having a good relationship, chatting by the social media. Besides collaboration, students can also compete in research dissemination. We held a seminar session with them. They presented their results of research and discussed all the topics. They were evaluated to get the winners. This is really a good opportunity. We teach them to compete in a positive way: enhancing the exchange of ideas on science they learn. The broader impact of collaboration is building the collective future of the nation. So far, the students have still communicated each other after the post collaboration. Therefore, besides wisdom, we can instill humanistic attitude. Building a networking among the world nations like that is one of the examples. It is good for making the collective future of the nations. The utmost goal of this is for the world peace. Dr. Djuwari is an Associate Professor and the Director of Language Laboratory at STIE Perbanas Surabaya, the editor of some research journals in the Philippines and Indonesia. He is also a journalist in some newspapers in Indonesia; the President of International Association of Scholarly Publishers, Editors, and Reviewers (IASPER).


October 3, 2020

IT'S five o'clock on a Friday afternoon. Maybe you have an ordinary office job. Your office mates are gone for the weekend already earlier. You haven't had a date for years, on family is waiting at home for you. Your best friend has an out-of-town meeting. Are you lonely? You betcha. That's one kind of loneliness. The temporary kind that makes you feel a bit uneasy but not totally down. But, there's another kind of loneliness that lurks especially in the lives of today's generation. And it's far more threatening than this Friday afternoon five o'clock one-timer. It's the painful loneliness that sets in when broken relationships cut you off from people you actually value very much. When you know the former warm spot in your heart will remain cold. It happens many times, when life goes on while death, separation, breakup, or alienation cuts you off from these people who could eliminate your loneliness. Yes, a variety of things could happen when this kind of loneliness turns a world into an island. We are on the way to isolationism, figuring that if we can't find someone significant to share life with, we might as well wrap ourselves up in pity. Or how about this? We can turn to God. His presence can take away the loneliness. His care can neutralize our concerns. His love can warm that cold spot in your heart. What do you think? You're the 'only lonely' on this globe? Talk to God! Listen to Him! Read Psalm 23 ('The Lord is my shepherd') and realize that He is talking to you. Let Him take away your loneliness. +++ Email: doringklaus@gmail.com or follow me on Facebook, Linkedin or Twitter or visit my www.germanexpatinthephilippines.blogspot.com or www.klausdoringsclassicalmusic.blogspot.com.


September 26, 2020

SOMETIMES, I feel paralyzed with anger. Strong words. Yes, sometimes there is no sense in crying or being mad, but we feel paralyzed. A good friend of mine told me that a couple of days ago. Words cannot describe it and words fail me, but I wouldn't be a writer, if I couldn't express the right words at the right moment. After the long talk with my friend, I must confess that, many times, I also felt speechless and paralyzed. In difficult times like right now,  follow ups seem to become the new national and international character. Indifferent people in our surroundings let us feel like that every day. Indifference seems to become one of the varagies in today's new society. We try to get an appointment, but the other side seems to be very busy - every day of the week! Of course, we don't want to encroach in other people's time. Let's try again tomorrow! How do you feel, if you observe certain employees, who should be in service of the people, instead of reading a magazine, doing private telephone calls, doing (important!) text messages and getting down-right cheeky, if we started uncounted follow ups. Then, suddenly, we have to learn that "the boss is out of town" or so... . Grabe. Yes, I might fall out of favor with some readers with today's column, but guys, what's the difference between being busy, making a good deal of money out of something and just being indifferent or "not in the mood" to entertain people. I can tell you frankly: Many people feel paralyzed and experience a terrible loss of power of movement or sensation while dealing with uselessness, if indifference, arrogance and ignorance determine the different situations in our daily life. If the promise has been given to help or support someone, it shouldn't be broken by endless excuses and terrible stalling tactics. A "YES" is a "YES" and a "NO" should be a "NO" and not "MAYBE", if a promise can't be held understandable and comprehensive. I don't like to let somebody wait for an answer or during an appointment. I try to look after it or take care of it. If I have been informed that somebody tried to contact me, but missed me, I really do everything to find him or her. What's bad about it? Sorry, I really don't like being late or "remain silent"... . How many good ideas and highly appreciated business deals had gone with the wind because of uncomprehending, unsympathetic and unappreciated everyday deals between fellow creatures? Can you get the hang of it? Especially in times of "new normality" we should try our very best to stay in contact with our environment people. Yes, sometimes I also feel uncomfortable while observing lost chances. The present is bad enough! Remember: we don't get anything for nothing in the whole word - sure! But first, we should learn how to keep promises, to help each other, to be honest and to be one of the leaders of national stabilization and consolidation. +++ Email: doringklaus@gmail.com or follow me on Facebook, LinkedIn or Twitter or visit www.germanexpatinthephilippines.blogspot.com or www.klausdoringsclassicalmusic.blogspot.com.


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